If you want to feel good about yourself, don’t go on social media. It seems like everyday I see something pop up on Facebook and Instagram from friends my same age talking about luxury vacations, designers outfits and fancy nights out on the town. Meanwhile, I’m sitting on my couch in my tiny NYC apartment eating a crockpot meal. Sure, most of these posts are wildly exaggerated but sometimes, I can’t help but be a little bit jealous.
When you’re young, you tend to have an idealized fantasy of what your 20s will look like. Then you get into the real world and realize how totally different “real life” is and specifically, how much being an adult actually costs. But cheer up. While you might not be living large just yet, you’re on your way. If you can relate to any of these 7 signs, you’re doing just fine.
You have a job
If you have a job, give yourself a pat on the back. It might not be your dream job but it pays and it’s helping you gain experience. Sometimes you have to pay your dues. Even if your career isn’t where you want it to be right now, you’ll get there. You have to chip away at it. Look for side gigs to help you gain more experience and network with people in the industry you want to get into.
Your bills are getting paid
Struggling to pay the bills at the end of the month is something many 20-somethings can relate to. But if you’re getting that done, you should be proud of yourself. Sure, the bulk of your paycheck may be going to rent and food. But the important thing is that you’re learning how to manage your money and how you spend it.
You’re learning from your mistakes
Your 20s should be about learning and self-discovery. Along the way, you’re going to make mistakes and come across rough patches. Don’t worry, it’s normal. It’s what you do with those experiences that can set you apart. Remember to always learn and grow wherever life takes you.
You’re thinking about the future
If you can see beyond the next year, you’re one step ahead. Even though you might be having fun right now and enjoying life (which you should), it’s also important to think about your future. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? And most importantly, what steps are you doing right now to get yourself there?
You’re developing interests & passions
Graduating college can be exciting yet scary. All of a sudden, people expect you to have a plan and know exactly what you want to do with your life. Most people at this age don’t. But it’s OK. The important thing is that you’re developing interests and passions. Explore, be curious, and challenge yourself. Discover what makes you want to get out of bed in the morning.
You have friends & family
So you might not have a lot in the bank account or your own place. But if you have friends and family, be thankful. This time in your life can be overwhelming and make you question everything. When that happens, go to your friends and family for support. They are the people that will always be there for you, no matter how crazy your life becomes.
You’re reading this!
Yes, you read that right! If you’re reading this, that means you at least have a slight curiosity about how well you’re doing. Don’t get too caught up in how everyone else is doing. So what if you don’t have everything figured out right now? You have plenty of time to. Just start building the foundation of the lifestyle you want little by little.
What advice would you give to any 20-something (doesn’t have to be financial!)?